It’s that time again, the time when the momentum of the year has brought us to a place of inertia – do you hit 2012 with the same pace, do you move forward, faster harder, with a force that changes your current trajectory, or do you stand still in your grace?
I’ve chosen not to continue as I was, rather to break through my trajectory from last year and put myself back on course of what my hearts desire really was. In fact, I’ve made those popular new years resolutions way before the nigh of December. You could say I’ve been cheeky getting in early like the Christmas decorations that start in October!
I’ve chosen to pursue my life long dream to start my own food business. I am The Big Sheila and I’ve started a company in this name! It will be my kitchen on line, creating, sharing, gathering and capturing all there is to our food experiences. YOUR experience with me in your fridge will open in the first quarter of 2012, when I’m launching a local kitchen in Singapore and a Global kitchen for all our of foodie friends around the world. The website is only in construction at the moment, but here is your link: www.thebigsheila.com
I’ve had many years where I’ve had so many lists of what I want to do, the ideals of what I wanted, the standards that I will up hold, the books I will read, lots of wonderful hopes but this year is different. This year has become more real than those before.
I resigned from my big job in September, gallant in my intentions to the right thing by my CEO and what the business needed. I resigned so the business could hire more resource, cheaper than I to accelerate growth. With no job to go to, knowing I was a talented woman and confidant I was very employable, I took a bold step forward. Yes, I had potential job offers coming in, especially so I could tell my mother I was going to be ok, but I wasn’t saying yes to anything. I needed some time to put my feet on the ground. Consciously I knew I was doing the right thing. Looking back now, I realize what I’d done was subconsciously create a new space for me to step into.
I’d given myself room to breath and put my feet firmly on the ground in order crystalize what I needed and what I truly wanted from my life. I turned 38 in this process and it was the most motivating birthday I’ve ever had. Yes, single, no marriage, no children but with a truck load of energy and dreams that I realized was only with me to make a reality. I suddenly thought, “holy cow, I’m going to be 40 in two years and I never wanted to say what if!”. There I was, just me, who I am as an individual, driven only by the passion of what I wanted to be, but never had the courage to before.
I escaped to Thailand after I resigned to a peaceful health retreat in Koh Samui called Kamalaya. It was a two-week put my feet on the ground and find my balance exercise. I took with me a bright red A4 book to write in. In the front pages I wrote words that opened my mind and may seem fluffy to some, but made complete sense to me. For in my business world I’ve learned to always make a statement of intention, to articulate the end state, what is the end result and how are you going to get there? So this is what I wrote ….
October 2011 - The transformation - Always be in your truth
- · To live my dreams
- · To turn my dreams to goals
- · To turn my goals into successes
- · To see my success in abundance
- · I am awake and checked into my life
- · The creation of love, balance and prosperity is all around me.
Then on the next page I wrote –
- · To be published hard copy for both my writing and food
- · On broadcast for my food
- · Recognized as a food line for The Big Sheila
- · Published for The Other Side
- · Financially secure and independent from these business ventures
- · It’s the 8th November 2013, I’m 40 and my writing and food has given me financial independence and wealth.
Then I did a mind map with ME in the center – and branches around that were themes about my body, mind, love, friends, family and community. It was a busy page with lots of thoughts and words to cement and visualize my path, a holistic map of my life to help me keep balance and focus on what’s important to me with my entire world, not just being successful in business. Everything in your world on page, bright in front of you suddenly makes a big impact, let me tell you! Clarity.
I took loads of supplements, slept 10 hours a night, read four books, talked to some spiritual guru’s and spent time alone, only focused on finding my balance. I think I did this one successfully. I left Thailand knowing what I was going to do. I’m sure that this balance has helped me to ensure that my new trajectory is on course for next year. My axis are all aligned, as I shuttle through 12.01am, 1st January I feel safe that my movement forward will be on course, solid, and only the trail blaze will be that of the burning off of the matter I need to leave behind in 2011.
And do you know what? Since I’ve decided to do this, I’ve had help for places I never dreamed of getting it from. I’m put it out there and said to the world, this is what I’m doing, and then like magic there are people, in droves, all there to hold my hand and lead me forward in fact! It’s truly inspiring, my floodgates have opened up entirely and I’m standing amazed at this point, utterly warm, totally confident in what I’m doing and a part of me there is wishing I’d only had the courage to do this sooner.
The other side of Inertia
You may feel that will fuller belly’s, muffin tops and less vitality that we once had because of all that has consumed us in this year has slowed you down, name your poison or reason, therefore no need to change, just let the year tick over. Stay solid in your current state, don’t move and don’t take action! This means you are happy with everything that you have. BUT, if you complain, you are a victim and you enjoy it. So you decide.
Or you may be the feeling heavy, but you know that staying as you are is not an option, but how the hell do you transform your list to reality? Because you know you’ve done it before, make a list that is - and magically at 12.01, with a clink of a glass, a snog and a mass of hugs that you’re reinvigorated, for a moment you feel all new again and come March, it’s out the window! Your inertia is still moving through the barrier, but your axis is off kilter, so you don’t move forward in the trajectory that you wished.
Stop and have a good hard look at yourself. You know what you’re doing, you know what is “the same old stuff”, trust your gut, stop ignoring it and get off your ass and know that some simple shifts might help your axis to be more aligned. I’ve said before, work out your patterns and look at the things you do over and over again – there is a reason you do them. Open your eyes a little to yourself and hey, wear sunglasses if the hard truth is a bit glary.
Or you may be one of those lucky ones that love your grace and the ticking over of time just means another blissful day in the world of who you are. Up and downs are normal and you’re ok with that. So here’s to another beautiful year of whatever life brings you. I wish more of the same.
Resolutions or not, grace or unbalance – how many of us are truly living the life we wanted for ourselves? Dreams are can seem impossible to make a reality, granted - of course choices are made that contributes to paths that we take. But you know in your list, say you'll have open eyes as this year turns to 2012 - you all have choices. And that is the simplicity of your truth.
If I can be straight to the point, like I did, get in touch with what your passion is and what you’ve always wanted but didn’t know how to. Then ask for help to make it happen. People are there like you never known when you’re passionate about what you believe in, let me give the mail! This world is actually full of people that want to help others be successful and I’ve only just tapped into this source, but it’s there. It’s incredible, I’m open to it now, so it’s my wave to ride I tell you!
In my momentum of this closing year I want to share and capture my appreciation for those loved ones that have held my hand this far and reminded me of who I am and that Leopards don’t change their spots, they just get bigger! Meaning, my passion for this dream hasn’t changed, it’s just got bigger. I’ve asked for help and no Christmas tree could compare to the gifts of support I’ve received from these people who are all firmly holding my hand through this journey. It’s overwhelming. No wonder my 2012 trajectory seems so certain right now!
My message to you is simple. Make your list, but remember, have courage, find your balance, get off your ass, ask for help, talk to people and always believe in yourself. Oh, and wake up, those dreams you have are here and now…. if you wish to launch. Get ready for a new trajectory!
Happy New Year… and here’s to open skies and seeing our goals turn into successes!
Love love love,
TBS
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